wedding thank you card suggestions/etiquette?
is it rude to have a pre printed thank you card for a wedding? my husband and i moved 3/4 of the way across the country right after our wedding with the military, i’m pregnant and pretty sick and have our 2 1/2 year old to take care of on top of unpacking and housework, so the pre printed our photographer suggested would be SO much easier (we had 100+ people at our wedding) but i don’t want to be rude. i thought maybe they were just trying to get more money out of us, but the preprinted and blank cards are the same price. she said a lot of people are doing it now. also, if it IS okay to do, what should the inside say? not everyone that came to the wedding got us a present…. and some just gave checks so i don’t want to say "gift"…. and we’re sending some to vendors (they asked). how would i encompass that with one ‘verse’?
I know you are busy, but it is really, really important that you write the thank you’s yourselves. Something printed up has no value at all: because a thank you is all about being personal.
And it doesn’t have to be lengthy, either! Just a sentence or two to thank them for their specific gift, and how you cannot wait to put it to good use! Could you have your husband help you with them? Maybe have him fill out the envelopes and add the stamps?
I would attempt to do 5 a week. You could sit down and write one single card each day, so that it never seems overwhelming. Guests will just be happy to get a thank you: it won’t matter how long it takes you to get it to them. If they know you at all, they will absolutely know how busy your life is right now, and they will give you some elbow room and understanding.
Good luck!
That is trashy, lazy AND rude.
NO excuses. You will offend everyone. This guy is just trying to sell you something. How uncouth, gauche and vulgar this is. Ugh.
Good luck
Never take etiquette advice from a vendor. And that goes double for one crass enough to state "lots of people are doing this now".
Everyone is busy after a wedding, but don’t let this panic you. Get them done as you can, and even a late thank you with an apology is far superior to some pre-printed junk, which is downright offensive to get as a thank you.
PS — And it’s fine to say "gift" for a check. You just need a quick personalized comment in each one, like great to see you, sorry we missed you, your dress was gorgeous, or whatever you want.
I have pre-printed thank you cards but I will hand write a message for each individual. It will only take you about hour at the most. These people took time out to go to your wedding and they should be formally thanked for doing so, especially the ones who gave you a gift. If you don’t do it you will regret it. You can find an hour out of one of your days to set aside for this.
A preprinted verse will not work for you. Leave that area blank so you can write your own Thank You message. Just remember "hand writing" something is better than hand writing nothing.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Yes, it is rude. It makes it look as if it’s not a sincere "thank you". You can always wait until your toddler is sleeping to get most of them done. If not, have your new husband write a short, personal message in each and both sign at the bottom. Stop using excuses. Try and put yourself in the guests’ shoes for a minute.
It is rude to use a pre-printed card. You don’t have to crank them all out in a single eveing. Do five or ten cards each afternoon or whenever your toddler is napping. Take your time and do it right.
"Thank you so much for your generous cash gift. We intend to use it towards new dishes, plates, home improvement – whatever…."
Always mention what the gift was, even if it was cash. That way the person knows you actually know what they gave you!
It’s much better to hand write each one. They come across as more sincere and personal this way. A pre printed card just doesn’t have the same affect.
I understand you’re busy. I have 12 hour days, and then help out my sick mother after work most days. It was rough trying to find the time. What my husband and I did was to write out a few cards each night. It only took 3 weeks to get them all out. It can be done.
The preprinted ones sound fine. You can say something like "Thank you for spending our special day with us! love Jack and Jill". For the people who did get you a gift you can hand write just a little note saying "we really appreciated…." or "we loved the…" but still use the preprinted card.